Don’t Chase. Attract

Ordinary people focus on chasing success, without ever working on themselves. Most of these people have no idea how success really works. You don’t chase success; you attract it. Let’s look at why it’s more effective to attract and how to do that.

Many people neglect the law of attraction and manifestation because they don’t believe in supernatural powers. However, this can limit our growth potential when we don’t understand the deeper meaning and reasoning behind attraction and how it supplements leverage and compound growth.

Similar to earning money vs making your money work for you, success can be compounded significantly if you plan correctly. The world’s most successful and influential people don’t chase success. Rather, they attract it.

Instead of being outcome-driven, you must focus on the process in order to excel. Michael Jordan’s personal trainer, Tim Grover, once said MJ’s training mentality had to be developed in order for him to become great. Michael says “I don’t compete with anyone… Everyone competes with me.” This mindset puts you in the dominant position, giving you confidence in every situation.

Many successful people have adopted a mindset where they ditch competition and instead, focus on the process. A powerful example in business is when Jeff Bezos said that the ‘secret sauce’ to Amazon’s success is an “obsessive compulsive focus” on its customers instead of its competition.

Michael Jordan

Bryan Cranston who became a world-famous actor wrote in his autobiography about switching his focus on process rather than an outcome. “It changed my life as an actor. I used to think that an audition was a job interview, but I realized I was giving up my power because I was going into an office wanting something from them. Whenever you want something from anyone, you have relinquished your power. Holding onto power in an audition is essential for an actor. You have to be able to do exactly what you want because that’s what’s required of you to impress someone with your uniqueness and what you could bring to a character. I was going in there to present an idea, an option for them. An audition became another opportunity for me to act.”

The realization empowered and relaxed Bryan as he no longer felt pressure to be validated or to get the job. The new & improved process-centric mindset changed him from someone who is asking for something (a role in a movie), to offering something (his acting skills). He no longer auditioned for roles. He now offers his skill and expertise to the casting crew.

When you switch your mindset, your confidence will reach optimal levels for success. Your job interviews, public speeches, negotiation deals, and any other crucial moments will turn from a tense inferior moment to you owning the situation completely. You will start to feel in control and ready to attract success instead of chasing it.

Bryan Cranston

Success is the natural consequence of consistently applying the basic fundamentals.”

Jim Ron

There are many examples of how chasing what you want can be not only inefficient but also counterintuitive. For entrepreneurs, chasing money often leads people to venture into shady business deals, get rich quick scams, and unethical business decisions by trying to take shortcuts. Anyone who has built a successful business will tell you the reality is that you will probably fail more than once. You will experience droughts of growth and reward despite working long hours. You will have days where you question if your effort is worth continuing.

Every successful entrepreneur endures these hardships and learns to develop a stoic personality by focusing on the process. Taking things one day at a time and setting short-term goals by striving for milestones can help you remain focused on where you’re going.

Force negates, so the more you try to force something the more resistance you will get. Instead, let’s look at five ways to attract what we want:

  1. Vibrations are the link between the seen and the unseen. It is essentially the relationship between mind, body, and matter through different channels of vibrations. All things in the universe vibrate—including ourselves. The thoughts, feelings, and actions we choose to have, also occupy their own particular rates of vibration. These vibrations will set up resonance with whatever possesses identical frequency. In other words, your thoughts are inseparably connected to the rest of the universe. “Like attracts like”. As you choose good thoughts, more good thoughts of alike nature will follow and you will also be in vibrational harmony with others with like thoughts. After years of battling with pseudoscience allegations, vibrations and our interconnectivity with everything in the universe is starting to be backed by neuroscience and physiology and should not be overlooked.
  2. The more you improve yourself, the more success you attract. “If you want enormous success, you must become more” – Jim Rohn. The greatest limiter of your success is you. If success was a formula, then your mindset, skillset, and capabilities will be the constants. At this moment, you could be earning $100,000 in passive income. This is not to discourage you, but to show you how difficult these skills entail. If you make progress in your skillsets, networking, mindset, and all other capabilities, you will inevitably reach that milestone. And as you continue to improve yourself, success will continue to follow. Improve yourself and you will attract success.
  3. Give and you shall receive. In addition to the spiritual notion, this saying works in multiple ways. Business leaders have many benefits of giving. Tax deductions, free press, employee benefits, networking, and brand image to name a few. Gary Vaynerchuk’s entire business mantra is to give without expectation. It is how he built his $200 million fortune. He even wrote a NY Times bestseller on giving called Jab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook which talks about how he gives as much as he can upfront before even thinking about asking for anything. “Not only will it make you feel good, but it’ll provide you the leverage that you can utilize if the opportunity comes knocking.” Frankly, people who give a lot are more likable to the public eye which attracts more business and relationships. A story from the medium depicts the value of giving; My mom once taught me a lesson about money I’d never forget. She handed me a $5 bill. “What will happen if you close your fist around that money?” I said I didn’t know. “If you close your fist around that money, you won’t lose it,” she explained. But then she looked me straight in the eyes. “But you also can’t get any more money with that closed fist, either.” Successful people attract success by being generous with their money, time, and energy.
  4. I have heard multiple successful entrepreneurs say that gratitude is the single most valuable trait they ever developed. Arianna Huffington, Tony Robbins, and Oprah Winfrey have agreed that success in life starts with acknowledging what you already have. Not only can gratitude transform your mindset and boost your happiness and stoicism, but gratitude also gives you the ability to be thankful for difficult obstacles (and the less you complain about them), the more success you’ll attract. Practicing gratitude has been proven to make you feel happier and more positive, more thoughtful and open to new experiences, feel lighter and more at ease, better sleep, better relationships, better focus, more creativity, more discipline, and better self-control. External success stems from what you think/how you feel inside. If you feel positive, thankful, and humble, you will begin to attract success.
  5. Preparation attracts success. You may have already heard the saying that luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity. Most people mistakenly think life-changing, enormously-lucrative opportunities never come to them. In actuality, these opportunities happen quite often. The problem is that most people are unprepared for them. They haven’t learned enough, worked hard enough, or put in enough time working on being prepared. Opportunity can come in all shapes and sizes, and sometimes doesn’t even seem like an opportunity at first. It takes a trained eye to identify opportunities, and a prepared individual to capitalize on it. The trick is to stay prepared so that when the opportunity is thrown at you, you’ll always be ready to strike a home-run.

In conclusion, ordinary people focus on “chasing” success, without ever really working on themselves. Most of them have no idea how success really works. Success is a natural byproduct of following the basic fundamentals. You don’t “chase” success; you attract it. So stop chasing what you desire—whether it’s love, money, success, or happiness. Become the best version of yourself by focusing on the process instead of the outcome, and your desires will chase you.